F E N C E .... PAKU DI PAGAR

There once was a boy who had a temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger the number of nails hammered gradually dwindled down.

He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when he didn't lose his temper. He told his father and his father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his anger. The days passed and the boy told his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took the boy by the hand and led him to the fence. He said look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same, when you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like the ones on the fence. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. it won't matter how many times you say I am sorry, the wound is still there. 

A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Friends are very rare. they make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, and always want to open their hearts to us. 

Suatu ketika, ada seorang anak laki-laki yang bersifat pemarah. Untuk 

mengurangi kebiasaan marah sang anak, ayahnya memberikan sekantong paku dan 

mengatakan pada anak itu untuk memakukan sebuah paku di pagar belakang 

setiap kali dia marah ...

Hari pertama anak itu telah memakukan 48 paku ke pagar setiap kali dia 

marah ... Lalu secara bertahap jumlah itu berkurang. Dia mendapati bahwa 

ternyata lebih mudah menahan amarahnya daripada memakukan paku ke pagar.

Akhirnya tibalah hari dimana anak tersebut merasa sama sekali bisa 

mengendalikan amarahnya dan tidak cepat kehilangan kesabarannya. Dia 

memberitahukan hal ini kepada ayahnya, yang kemudian mengusulkan agar dia 

mencabut satu paku untuk setiap hari dimana dia tidak marah.

Hari-hari berlalu dan anak laki-laki itu akhirnya memberitahu ayahnya 

bahwa semua paku telah tercabut olehnya. Lalu sang ayah menuntun anaknya ke 

pagar. "Hmm, kamu telah berhasil dengan baik anakku, tapi, lihatlah 

lubang-lubang di pagar ini. Pagar ini tidak akan pernah bisa sama seperti 

sebelumnya. "Ketika kamu mengatakan sesuatu dalam kemarahan. Kata-katamu 

meninggalkan bekas seperti lubang ini ... di hati orang lain.

Kamu dapat menusukkan pisau pada seseorang, lalu mencabut pisau itu ... 

Tetapi tidak peduli beberapa kali kamu minta maaf, luka itu akan tetap ada ... 

dan luka karena kata-kata adalah sama buruknya dengan luka fisik ..."